more reason to hate people

So let me just tell you something to make you lose your faith in the legal system when it comes to dealing with family/divorce/custody situations.

My sister has been going through a custody battle with her ex-husband. They have had multiple custody changes over the several years they've been divorced, but they were fine with sharing custody until about a year ago. What happened a year ago? Her xhub got remarried to this psychotic infant who wants to pretend as though the boys are her boys rather than his with Candace. Sorry, girl who is my age but acts like a 19-year-old... PERHAPS you should have thought of all that before you got married. It's not like the boys randomly appeared once the rings were on.

Anyway, my sister had temporarily moved in with my parents when she got laid off and had planned to move out this summer after getting settled into her new job and getting some money saved up. Unfortunately, once xhub started all this BS, she ended up stuck living with my parents longer because all her money was going toward legal fees.

There's been much drama associated with this entire fiasco. The drama includes some meanness from the psychotic infant aimed toward at least one of my nephews at various points. Recording of phone conversations between my sister and at least one of her sons. And a HARD EVIDENCE video of the xhub and the psychotic infant screaming and cursing at my nephews (who are 18, 15, and 13)... including their own father calling them chicken s**ts and essentially saying that their mother is not as good of a mother as their new stepmom. Hold on a second while I throw up in my mouth a little bit on that one. I try to stay neutral and give both sides the benefit of the doubt, but while I watched that video, I literally thought, if those were my kids, I'd get arrested for custodial interference, because I'd go pick them up and haul them out of the country to get them out of that crap. Also included in the decision-making process - lots of sessions with this "therapist" who is allegedly qualified to make recommendations on where the boys live.

So the report came out yesterday. That giant pile of shite therapist recommended that xhub get the kids for the entire school year, only excepting three weekends a month and negotiated holidays. The ONLY reason? Because he's had his job for longer and has been living in his house longer. Because God knows, a continuous living time in a home makes for a loving family. Guess if they were manufacturing meth for 15 years in the home, it'd still be a good family atmosphere.

Never mind that the reason that my sister is still living with my parents is because of his custody contesting. Never mind that a major reason she hasn't had a long term career is because she was the primary caretaker of their kids for their entire marriage. That he didn't even care about spending major holidays, like Christmas, with his kids because he was at work. That he dropped his kids off just before Christmas a few years ago and refused to allow them back, causing my youngest nephew to literally cry at our family gathering because he wanted to see his dad and the dad wouldn't allow them back home. That he hauled my oldest nephew out of the house in the freezing cold and hosed him down with the water hose in the backyard because he had a bathroom accident as a child. That he shoved my sister so hard that I had to bring her to the ER when they were married, and medical records prove it.

Apparently, none of that matters. I'm not saying my sister is perfect; who is? I can tell you right now that some things I have done as a parent are probably easily questionable. And I know that sometimes I just have to walk out rather than do something bad with my temper. HOWEVER, why totally side with one position when so much evidence is presented to show why they shouldn't be chosen?

If this has taught anyone any lessons, it's that if your marriage is on the rocks, you better stick it out until the kids are older no matter what. I think if I had to deal with this, I'd be in prison now for multiple reasons.